- Homosexuality is a choice.
- Homosexuality is a disorder.
- Homosexuality is the result of trauma or poor parenting.
- Homosexuality is the result of sin or bad thoughts.
- Homosexuality is counterfeit.
- Homosexuals are selfish.
- Homosexuals will destroy traditional marriage.
- Homosexuality is a danger to children.
I just realized that if we take out the word "homosexuality" and replace it with "fear", we have a much more clear picture of what's the root of society's ills. It isn't me and how I love.
I saw a quote today.
“The world is filled with too many of us who are inclined to indicate our love with an announcement or declaration.
“True love is a process. True love requires personal action. Love must be continuing to be real. Love takes time. Too often expediency, infatuation, stimulation, persuasion, or lust are mistaken for love. How hollow, how empty if our love is no deeper than the arousal of momentary feeling or the expression in words of what is no more lasting than the time it takes to speak them."
~Marvin J. Ashton
This was shared by a person who teaches that homosexuality is a myth and there are only two appropriate ways to deal with it: celibacy or marriage to opposite gendered people. Him sharing this quote reminds me that so many people feel that my love for a woman is counterfeit and fake. If I fall in love with a woman, it's because I want it now, I'm swayed by infatuation, I've been turned on, and I lust. Not because I love, because I can't as a homosexual. I have no capacity for the depth or the permanency that only heterosexual people can have.
I am here to tell you from the bottom of my very soul and the depths of my being, that is a lie. It would make sense to some that the Church is only asking us to walk away from that which can never fill us. But that's not what homosexual love is. It is quite filling and quite deep. It is true, it calls for action, it continues, it is lasting. It is the same love that you feel for your spouse. Know this, feel this, internalize this. Then realize what you are asking of us. Could you do it? Could you have walked away from your love because someone else told you it was wrong, no matter what your own heart was telling you? Could you do it?
I've now come to such a place that not only would I not walk away, I can't. To do so would lead to emotional, mental, and spiritual death. I know this outcome because I did walk away for the sake of morality and rightness. I did give it up. Several times over the years. But now I'm much more interested in living. Deeply and fully. Just as Abraham Maslow discovered about self actualization, this requires deep and intimate relationship, which I can only find with a woman. We all need this relationship, this connection, and this intimacy. I see such closeness with another human being as a gift and blessing from God.
I bet you do, too.